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Originally Posted by DubaiSis
There wouldn't have been a glimmer of a thought that this Kappa Sig would have worn a Lambda Chi lavelier.
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To me, this gets at the practical crux of the matter. Questions of whether it's an outdated tradition, sexist or heterosexist aside, when a male lavalieres or pins a female or allows her to wear his letters in some other way, there is no risk of confusion that she will be seen as a member of his fraternity. (That is, assuming we're not talking about a co-ed fraternity.) But when a male lavalieres or pins his boyfriend or otherwise allows him to wear letters, then there is that risk of confusion. Perhaps a solution lies in some token specifically intended only for a significant other.
Disclaimer: My fraternity doesn't allow anyone other than initiated brothers to wear the letters or the badge, so traditional lavaliering or pinning is out for us. It was once allowed, and we did once have a smaller mother's/wife's/fiancée's badge available, but it has since been prohibited nationally.