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Originally posted by Cloud9
NOW..., understand when/if you reply to this that everything I have just said is my opinion ONLY under the condition that UF Pike is right, that all men "need" to get booty, and if they stray that's somehow the woman's fault for not servicing him or whatever. If you can prove me wrong PLEASE do, I don't WANT to be right about this! 
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That's not what he said - he just said that, if a man's sexual needs weren't being met, that could cause him to look elsewhere to meet these needs. The same could happen to a woman, or for different reasons (emotional needs, financial needs, etc not being met). The man tends to have more of an emphasis (evolutionarily) on mating as much as possible, potentially exacerbating the situation. It's not that a man cheating is always the woman's fault - but it's not always so cut-and-dried as "he's an asshole!" There may be legitimate areas of the relationship where his mate was lacking, causing him to look elsewhere - in this way, he made a bad decision, but it's not exclusively his 'fault'.
Also - MOST IMPORTANTLY - All men DO need to 'get booty' - all women do too. Sexual needs are just as important as any other aspect of a relationship (and if you compare consequences, it might be more important). Each person has a different libido, a different need - but these needs need to get met, just like emotional needs etc.
Now, I don't know if this is at all applicable to the situation here - some guys just cheat for the 'thrill' of it, or b/c they aren't able to handle commitment, or whatever. But UF_Pike was inferring that we don't know the situation, so we can't assume one way or another what the reasons for him cheating were (or how to assign 'fault').