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Originally Posted by Buck123
Okay so I have a pretty big dilemma here. I go to a big SEC school with a pretty profound greek life. I wanted to initially join a top tier fraternity and I had a certain one in mind. I fit in with them but I didnt have enough connections(exclusive) in order for me to get bid on. The reason for that was they had their pledge class picked out already by fall. I had a few fallbacks and I have always wanted to be in a fraternity so I chose a middle tier fraternity. I have been sticking it out in this pledge semester but I have found that my pledge brothers seem to be a lot different than me and not much in common. I feel like I made a mistake but I'm not sure. I was approached by my friend and another guy I met here at the university telling me if I drop the fraternity I'm pledging they would certainly have my back and get me in the spring. The problem is that I know in SEC schools spring pledges are looked down upon and dropping my current fraternity is also a shot in the dark. I know this is hard to advise someone on but could anyone relate or have some good advice on what would be a good choice?
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Don't drop. Stay where you are. If you aren't feeling close to your pledge brothers, try to find older members in the house who you have something in common with. If you can't find them, start trying to find new members who you click with a little better.
Also, give it time. Building friendships is a matter of time.
Don't drop your fraternity for a sketchy, half-assed promise of a bid in the spring. Those guys can't guarantee anything and their big talk will probably end up with nothing. Don't let them string you along. They're getting a little thrill out of feeling wanted and feeling better than the house you are currently in. "We're so good, a guy is willing to drop his house to join ours!" Ignore them. It's BS.