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Old 09-18-2013, 11:11 AM
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Originally Posted by lovespink88 View Post
I actually like that article way more than I thought I was going to.

Especially this





But seriously, it was truthful without being all "YOU GEN Y'ERS ARE THE WORST PEOPLE EVER" which feels like the tone of many of these types of articles. I particularly enjoyed the illustrations

I have to admit that I definitely suffer from that social media envy.

3 months into starting my career, I really felt like I was doing a so-so job. I didn't think I was doing a bad job at all, but I didn't think I was anything outstanding.

Within a year, I had 2 glowing reviews, a promotion, 33% in raises (maybe I was just severely underpaid? lol) and CONSTANT praise by superiors. Needless to say that boosted my confidence, and perhaps inflated my ego, just a bit.

So take that and the fact that due to the way my agency (and most big agencies) was structured, and I was left feeling that I would be promoted to a supervisory role sometime next year or so.

Then I moved and started a job in the same field but at a place that is structured very differently. It immediately became very clear to me that as long as I am out here, I will NOT become a supervisor. There are others who have 10+ years experience on me that share my job title--they are obviously up for a promotion before I am.

That realization left me very upset and jealous. I felt like years from now, old co-workers might come across me on LinkedIn and see that I am still in the same position I was in when I left my job back home. That made me feel like others would see me as a failure--a horrible thought after having so much "early success". I was super jealous when I saw a sorority sister in my industry just recently get promoted to "supervisor". "WHY NOT ME?!"

I'm not looking for any sympathy and in fact, I feel VERY silly admitting all of this. I guess my point is I understand 100% how people can let something like social media put some sort of extra, non-really-existent-in-reality pressure on themselves. It's dumb, but I completely get it.

ETA: And for the record, I'm accepting the differences between here and my old job. I am realizing that a title is not something that is a true measure of your success.
You shouldn't feel silly at all for sharing this. I think many of us can relate to that. There have been times I've seen pictures of friends who are always (or so it seems) on vacation and out at the clubs/ bars. I sometimes see that and think, "I'm busting my butt to make a living doing something I love but, I'm not able to be out and about all the time. Why not?" I totally agree with the social media situation making people feel bad about themselves. Thanks for sharing your experience. It normalizes what many of us already feel.
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