Well, that's kind of what I was wondering... (and I apologize, I thought you were using the word "auxilliary" in the sense of "extra"... I didn't realize you were referring to an activity! although I was a pom girl )

I guess what I'm wondering is, I didn't have any interest in recitals, etc. but I pledged DO because a) they had rush before NPC, so they were my first Greek experience and b) I fit in well with the group. When it came to the music related philanthropies, I helped of course, but I would have been just as happy to do a Make a Wish Foundation philanthropy or a Humane Society philanthropy, etc. I tried to organize things like that while I was active, but it was rather frowned upon by the NPC greeks, and never went through.

In the long run? Perhaps I would have been happier elsewhere. I wish I could have been part of an NPC sorority, it probably would have been a better fit for me. But I don't think that means I was any less of a sister, that my heart was any less in it, that I had any less devotion to my sorority and my sisters just because I don't live and die for music....