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Originally Posted by als463
Cinder1965, thanks! I'm glad some people agree with me. That belief is what got me threatened and berated by someone in another group because I was being "unbecoming of a sorority woman" when I essentially told PNMs to stop whining and crying for not getting their #1 choice as they turned away bids from their "bottom" choices because they "didn't feel comfortable" or "have a connection" with the ladies. We really need to preach a Panhellenic spirit overall or girls will continue to go and visit THAT site and make decisions based upon what group of girls can be the most catty.
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I apologize in advance for ranting.
As an active I don't get the "didn't feel comfortable" or "didn't have a connection" after meeting half a dozen actives in any house and deciding to drop out. PNMs are making judgments after meeting so few of us and I don't understand it. If we're being honest the entire process is crammed into a very short time period and can be very superficial so how do any of us, PNMs or actives, really get to know each other, especially complete strangers?
On Bid Day I had 3 choices and while I liked all of them, I really liked one because the 2 girls I spoke to for a total of 30 minutes had something very specific in common with me. That's why they were my favorite. Looking back at my notes they didn't even register on days 1-3. That is how fluid and quick the process is. Now being an active, knowing more girls in every house, I completely realize that house would not have been a fit for me. I trusted the process and gave it time. I'm sorry but I don't get PNMs who don't give it a shot because they think: they're better than me and my sisters (or other houses), because they think we/they are awkward (and yes, everybody uses that word and it's not in a kind way) and they don't want to be part of us/them. They take pride in saying they rejected our/their bid and would rather not join a sorority then join ours/theirs.
There is a house at my school that struggles each year to meet quota (not my house). They are beaten down on THAT awful site. I admit I thought they were awkward when I went through recruitment. I am ashamed to say that I was being superficial and petty. I've met so many of these girls and am proud to call them my friends. They are classy, involved, occasionally dorky in such a good way, funny, and true friends. They are a credit to the Panhellenic spirit and PNMs who throw away bids to this house (or houses they think are like them) are missing out on great opportunities based on the glow of recruitment.
Sorry for the rant but reading about girls not even going to Bid Day ticked me off. My mom always tells me first impressions can be misleading. She met my dad and immediately disliked him. They've been married 25 years.