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Originally Posted by celebcj
Hey so after a few weeks of temporary big and littles (Kite Pals), I know I've found the girl I want to be my little. We still have 2 more weeks of Kite Pals, but I really know I want this girl. So... with that said, should I go ahead and ask her to be my little now (a process some call dirty littling) and if so, how? or should I wait until a few days before we have to send the pref emails to our New Member Director and ask her?
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Is this considered "dirty" because of the timing (2 weeks in advance), or is it because you shouldn't be the one to ask a new member to be your little; the new member should ask you to be her big (or there's a formal matching process of some kind)?
If it's the former, I think you should wait. If it's the latter, you should allow the new member to select who she wants without influencing her decision. I know you want her as your little, but what if she truly wants someone else? That could create an extremely awkward situation.. more so for her than for you. And I'm sure the last thing you would want to do is make this girl feel like she has no choice in the matter.