Asia: that's ALL you have to say?
Stop using caps? Yes, the post is confusing, but there is a kernel of inquiry within the message.
I think there IS a deeper issue, here, like her interest. Perhaps she has no idea of the proper way to go about her research, and whom to contact.
Pooh: you should check out the FAQ/Information on each sorority's message board and read every question, first of all. Second, read their literature: histories, books written by members, press coverage, etc. These all tell you why people join the sororities that they do. Most importantly, OBSERVE. Observe members within your sommunity, on your campus, wherever you are. See who's active and committed, and get to know those women better. Most active people aren't about their letters or who they can date and how many parties they can get discounts to. See the business side of each sorority you're intrested in, and the decision can be made for you, right there in living color.
Good luck.
On a personal note: I, too, am confused about your intro about frat "boyz" and self esteem. What does dating frats have to do with choosing a SORORITY? IMHO, Nothing.
Are you in college, yet? No offense, but you sound a little young, which is fine
but realize you have a great deal of time to make choices.
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[This message has been edited by Salience (edited June 19, 2000).]