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Dear NGSU - it's hard, but put your whole self into your new experience because you don't know what the future holds, and you don't know what the future would have been if you had joined the other sorority. It was just your fantasy/imagination. Resilient people are successful people, and resilient people try to make the best of their situations and if it doesn't work they try something else.
An example... Sometimes I still kick myself that I didn't go to a college that had more to offer; I could have, but didn't. But my life has ended up being great! although of course with ups and downs. I met a not so great boyfriend in college and this ended up in my going to grad school in the Midwest where I met my husband of many!! years. I've had interesting careers, travel, children etc etc. Have had struggles and what-ifs but have been blessed in many ways. Who knows where I would be if I had gone to a different college?
You never know... maybe one of your new sorority sisters will become your best friend. Maybe you'll be a strong support for a sorority sister who's going through a hard time. Maybe there's an important role in store for you. Maybe someone's relative will help you get a great internship, or your connections will help someone else. Maybe if you had joined the other sorority someone would have stolen your boyfriend. You never know! You might have had such high expectations and then had a big letdown, like many of the posts on greekchat.
Just give it your whole hearted best. In the long run if it just doesn't work you can pour yourself into other activities.
Best wishes!
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