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Originally Posted by JasminePSS
Hey everyone! This is my first thread so please don't bite  I am about to have my first recruitment on the other side in a couple days and I am really worried I am going to get a PNM like how I was; shy, quiet, soft-spoken. ( it was bad then). I have started to make a list of "back-pocket" questions I can ask her if things get..awkward. Here's my list so far:
What would you contribute to Phi Sigma Sigma?
Do you consider yourself a leader?
What is your major?
How are you liking your classes so far?
What grade are you in?
Are you involved in any groups on campus, or were you involved in anything in High School?
What made you decide to join a sorority?
What would you consider your dream job?
If you could meet anyone, living or dead, who would you meet?
If you won the lottery, what is the first thing you would do?
Are you living on campus?
Do you have any siblings?
How do you like rush so far?
Do you like doing Community Service?
What are you looking for in a sorority?
Do you want to Study Abroad?
Can anyone else think of some good questions that are easy to remember?
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In my opinion, you should get rid of the questions in red. You're looking to befriend these women.. not ask them strange/difficult questions that may not lead to a good conversation. The questions I've highlighted sound way too rehearsed/memorized, and in some cases, they sound more like interview questions than "get to know you" questions.
You want to ask things that will lead to another question, and then another. It may sound strange, but ask questions based on things for which YOU would have a somewhat interesting answer. With a PNM who is shy or doesn't talk much, sometimes they feel more comfortable with someone else leading the conversation. If you ask what her major is, and she says, "History," and you ask her what she wants to do with her degree, and she says, "I don't know," you could respond by saying, "Not many people know.. I didn't know either.. and still don't! But you still have plenty of time to decide. So assuming money didn't matter, what would your dream job be?"
You may not want to start with "What's your dream job?" out of the blue. You need to start with general questions, and then lead into more specific ones.
ETA: I came across this article not too long ago which provides a simple trick to turning any boring/simple conversation into an interesting one. Try this!
http://www.phiredup.com/index.php?op...rdpress&p=2314