[PersistentDST]

Here is what I suggest: (And I am not saying it with a tone, but I'm a pretty straightforward chick)

Remember why you originally chose to become a member of your organization. Really think about it. Remember back to your initiation and how you felt. Think about the young lady who could have taken your spot, and was crying because she was dropped from her number one choice. Think about all those times you could have simply told the Big Sisters that you were going to stay in and study, and catch the next (inevitable) party. Think about all of the things you could have declined to do when you were pressured. While I think Big Sisters should be a support system for you, they are not your academic advisors, your moral compass and they aren't...well...YOU. You have to make conscious decisions on what you will do for the well-being of YOU. Don't think that if you had been initiated into a NPHC organization that you may not have had sisters pressure you in the same way.

The reason so many people here are not really sympathetic to your plight is because many of us made a vow to be committed to our organizations for a LIFETIME, and we take it seriously. It is a priviledge to be chosen and initiated. Many people will never get the opportunity you have. I suggest you make lemonade with these lemons. Fall in love with your organization. Go become active with the alumni chapter, and help other young ladies to fall in love with it. Use these feelings/experiences you had with your big sisters and guide someone else in a positive direction.

Good luck...