[DubaiSis]

It is mutual selection in that they pick you and you get to say yes or no to the bid. Beyond that, it's only mutual if you are very well-liked and get your top list, which is pretty rare in the era of RFM.

Here's what I'm hearing "I'm WAY too good for half of the chapters on my campus and I need to tell them so to leave me free, a junior who was given a chance in the past and didn't respect it, to pledge one of the chapters who didn't want me last year as a sophomore, but certainly will want me now as a junior."

Really, don't rush. You don't get what sorority membership is and you're never going to find a match for your inflated sense of self-worth.

/eta and think about the reverse. You go to rush and a/some chapter/s sit you down and say, "sweetie, you're just really not good enough for us so let's just sit here quietly and save my voice for girls who matter." Bitchy much? Yes. Arrogant, entitled, superior, not worth one more second of ANYONE'S time. Yes. A comment worthy of a chapter having their charter pulled? Possibly.
But you go ahead and give that a shot when you go through.