[DrPhil]

With over one hundred years and hundreds of thousands of members, let us not pretend that all sororities and fraternities only have members who were (1) wanted and (2) wanted for their individual awesomeness regardless of demographics.

Some of us know of chapters that were forced to initiate people and chapters that chose people based on what some would consider superficial reasons.

Furthermore, "wanted for themselves" can include race, ethnicity, and culture. My awesomeness includes being a Black woman. I am not a transparent robot void of culture and group identity. Therefore, "wanted for themselves" and what this means to different people is one reason why diversity is complex. People want to boast about not caring and pretend as though you just accidentally have diversity. You wake up one day and say "wow, we suddenly and randomly have a bunch of nonwhite people...it wasn't even somewhat intentional...we never noticed our PNMs and members were changing in demographics...wow....."