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1. Once a cheater always a cheater?

What is your statement based upon? You and your friends expierences? I know many instances where a person has cheated once and never again. Some of which are in my family. Just because you have an affair once doesn't mean you will do it again. Obviously the man went somewhere else because either his woman didn't let him know how much of a freak she is or else she simply didn't do anything he liked. I mean look at Hillary, she stopped giving ole Bill "good head" and so he found some intern that was still in her college head giving days. In our species, the male is driven by the urge for the number of times to mate, not what type of person or their characteristics but simply doing it. The is most often noted when you are out at a bar and you see some hot guy leaving with some skank hoe. Its not because she looks good or is nice, but rather that he knows if he takes the skank chick home, he'll get some moo shuu. This is how many males are and any guy ( in this day of age) who says otherwise is lying. I'd say find out what the problem was as to why he cheated on her. If it was something about her that she did and he couldn't handle it, then she needs to change it if she wants to retain her marriage. If he simply was not happy with her anymore, get a divorce and become another statistic. Every marriage goes through some serious problem. The problems vary from Affairs, Death, Finances to past secerets, abuse and religon. What ever the problem is she needs to find out what it is and see if there is any hope to correcting it. I understand some situations are hopeless, but if everyone decided not to stick it out and see if they cannot workthings out, then we would all be children of single parents and be single parents ourselves one day. Cheating on your wife is a nasty thing to do and can be sticky if you have a bich. It will take a LONG time for her to get over this and for him to regain her trust if they do decide to stick it out. As for counseling, that is not a requirement. She doesn't need to pay some shrink to supervise the two of them while the "Talk" their probelms out. The can be civilized at their home and work it out.

I cannot believe that some of you can just tell someone to leave their husband on some chat board. Do you not realize the effects that could have not just her, but others around her? I am positive she has not explained EVERYTHING to us about their relationship, therefore WE do not know everything. There are always TWO sides to any situation. Some of you are acting like this is Sex and The City and you all are that little red headed witch from hell. Despite what some of you may believe, Sex and the City is not based on a true story and is not the real world. With that said, it is not hard to realize that it is much easier for you women to sound the battle cry with shouts of "DIVORCE!", "Dump Him!" and " Cheaters always Cheat!" when it is her husband rather than your own. Obviously some of you are not married or else you would not be so quick to say such things. Divorce is not something to be taken lightly and WILL effect lives other than hers in some way or form. Attorney fees in divorce cases get very expensive. My most recent girlfriends Dad was Lonnie Andersons attorney against Burt Reynolds in their divorce case and to this day she is still paying him the attorney fees. Do you all think that their divorce only effected the two of them? The seperation of two married people often effects many people within a family.


2. Boys suck? Women are just as bad if not worse than men. They can be a sneaky, kniving,back stabbing and grudge holding species. At the same time they can be caring, loving, forgivefull and most often take the place of a mans mother once married. Everyone has a good side to them and a bad. Whether you are male or female. Everyone has issues-MAJOR Issues, the only reason why people are together is because when two people meet that can deal with each others issues, they become a couple otherwise they would not be together. This takes time to learn what their issues are and this is why many couples who rush into things don't last.