[DubaiSis]

The thing is YOU DON'T KNOW where you will fit in the best. At round 1 you may think you know what's what, but you don't. In my case, I was cut by 3 chapters and was able to cut 1 (it was a LONG time ago). The last one on my list for round 2 turned out to be my chapter. Had I been "honest" in round 1, I would have had a very different outcome, and that would have been a real shame. Even at preference, a girl can be so confused, so stressed out, so swayed by others, that she thinks she knows what's what, but doesn't.

My version of this advice is if you are not feeling it, still be nice, still be enthusiastic, still try to find that connection, try to find common ground. The sad but truth is in 99% of the cases, they're picking you, not the reverse. Don't limit your choices because you need every option you can get. When you're at preference and you're totally confused, stressed out, whatever, and the sister asks what you're feeling, you can be honest that you are those things, but I still wouldn't tell them they're your second or last choice. First, it's rude. Second, in several hours you may be finding them on your bid card. And my advice is don't SIP (only put one on your MRABA form) and accept what you're given. You can drop out later if you feel you must, but if you stick it out and work at it, you'll probably end up happy. There are exceptions to this, but as a general rule, play along and you'll be happy.