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Originally Posted by Titchou
The only valid answer is for you - or whomever - to check with your own chapter. We can't really answer the question for you unless we are members of your chapter. And how your chapter handles these issues is private. If you don't care about your private business being made public - fine. But I am sue your chapter and GLO do. And we respect that,
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She's a PNM.
turtlebutter, I suggest you step away from the keyboard, take a deep breath, and then consider how your posts might come across to people who know nothing about you and can only go by what you've written. I don't think anyone has been aggressive, nor do I think anyone suggested that you were getting "dirt" on your cousin. What they said was that the reason your cousin didn't say much was because your question might have made her uncomfortable or embarrassed.
What people have also very clearly said is that there is no real answer to your question, so there's nothing anyone can tell you to satisfy your curiosity or help you plan for what might be -- policies about this vary from sorority to sorority and perhaps even from chapter to chapter. And often, it's something only the member in question and relevant officers really know the details of. Consider this a chance to learn that there are some things that aren't discussed outside of membership, and some things it's not considered appropriate to ask questions about.
Good luck with recruitment.