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Alumnae have different degrees of comfort when it comes to rec. writing. I have known women who felt comfortable to meet a local, but previously unknown, PNM at Starbucks for an "interview"/visit after which she felt comfortable to write a rec. for the girl. Others are happy to have skype, phone or email conversations with the PNM to get to know her better. So OP, don't give up just because you can't find a member of DEF in your neck of the woods-there are other ways to meet, and other means of communication. I think the Facebook idea might work.