[DubaiSis]

While I can appreciate your concern, there's nothing you can do about it now. She's gonna have to go through rush and see the chips fall where they may. But I would counsel her to be very panhellenic and while other girls are speaking ill of this chapter to either not participate or try to nip the negative talk. Even if she decides to SIP instead of taking the chapter she doesn't want, she should be ladylike enough to not make those who do choose to bite the bullet feel worse.

There's no good way to have this conversation because we all want the girls to be brave and take the risky chapter, but you're right. Sometimes they're better off not doing so. Without knowing what school and what chapter (and for dog's sake, don't tell us), nobody can clarify, correct or corroborate what you think to be true. Just tell her to put her best foot forward, make up her own mind (reputations can change remarkably quickly, by the way), and deal with the circumstances she's given, all while being polite and friendly with and about everyone she encounters. During rush even more than in everyday life. And you too. Good luck to both of you!