[HQWest]

Originally Posted by 33girl

And from all accounts, the pot was a lot less potent back then.

Re living with boyfriends, we (this is the mid-80s) had a girl basically living with her boyfriend on our floor in the dorm (this was not a 24 hour visitation dorm BTW). His roommates were assholes and he was a good guy, so no one cared. If they did, I didn't know about it.

AGDee is right in that AIDS (especially after Magic Johnson was diagnosed) changed things up, but being at a small school in the middle of nowhere, we were slow to get the memo. When I was in college, being a virgin was something to be ashamed of and you would never admit it. 6-7 years later, people were virgins or abstinent and proud of it.

Re that article, I think there are a lot of girls saying "oh, I just want to hook up and not get emotionally involved, I don't want to get tied down, I want a career, blah blah blah" that are completely full of shit. You can say over and over and over that you're just doing something for physical release, but hearts and emotions are funny things. We didn't really "date" either. We went to fraternity parties and hung out together. If you hung out with the same person all the time, you were a couple. The only people having actual "dates" were longterm couples who would go to a nice restaurant or whatever.

Yes. I think that there are a lot more in the media that are highlighting the outliers. There is a lot of craziness that goes on at parties, but not as much as movies or tv would have you believe. And if she is seeing the same guy over and over - they are in a relationship (just not a very good one.)