[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by tld221

I really love reading the NPC bid matching scenario threads. I'm not even lane swerving, just standing across the street watching with extreme interest from my front yard.

Question: it was mentioned that when PNMs are invited back to all rounds including Pref, it's an unspoken "we want you, let's convince you to list us as #1 if you aren't already there." I liken this to graduate school preview days, where your acceptance is your bid and the school really wants you to accept their acceptance.

Now, this can go 2 ways. If it's a house that's quite popular, your pref night could be in a cardboard box lit by glowsticks and PNMs are still ranking your house #1 in the finest penmanship. If it's a house that's meh, you really are making a sell to at least half the women attending. To me, it's most likely your chapter "wants" them*. It it's a struggling house your PNMs don't really care for or know about, that Pref is as hard a sell as your first round rush party. Am I right on this?

On to my asterisk: how does NPC define "want"? Is it an intrapersonal "the last few days getting to know you have been amazing, let's go steady" want, or a straightforward "our quota is a number we need to fill and we want you to be a member"? Or is this respective to the scenarios I listed above? In other words, are there chapters that, when bid matching (either by hand or machine) want everyone on their first bid list? Like over the moon, "she NEEDS to be my sister" want.

Also, is the machine matching so automated that you get women on your list that everyone's like "...oh, ok. yay :/"

By the time pref comes around, most groups have sorted to their main competitors. The women at the pref parties for the weak recruiting chapters generally have accepted that they won't be getting a bid to a strong recruiting chapter, and the parties are no more hard sell than your other parties. Maybe your really struggling chapter with a mandate to fill a quota or lose their chapter may come across that way, but for the most part it's about building relationships with people who have something in common with you. A few women will feel out of place at any given place, but most will feel like they are welcome. I haven't seen many collegians that are comfortable with or good at the prolonged or impassioned "hard sell." Most move on to talk about something else after a couple minutes.