[GammaGirl1908]

Chiming in to say that although I eventually decided to join an NPHC after college, I did consider joining an NPC during college (at a Big 10 school), and I had many friends of a range of races in NPC orgs while a student. So, I do have an inkling of your considerations. (I also am not biracial, but I was raised in a predominantly white atmosphere, so I know **exactly** what you mean with the acting white / acting black terminology, ungraceful though it may be. Sigh.)

Anyway, the point I wanted to emphasize is the one made upthread that if you are otherwise an excellent candidate, and yet your heritage -- or anything else about you -- is a problem, that means that organization is not your greek home. You don't WANT to be there if they don't want you there. Simple as that.

Whether you want to be there and whether they want you there is exactly what you'll discover while you're going through the process of choosing -- and being chosen by -- your organization. To me, deciding which org to join is not about NPC vs NPHC; after all, there are plenty of non-black members of NPHC orgs and there are plenty of non-white members of NPC orgs (and note that plenty of black people have no desire to be part of an NPHC, and plenty of white people have no desire to be part of an NPC). Instead, it's about finding the place where you really want to be, and that also really wants you to be there ... regardless of the makeup of the org OR your heritage.

Having both sides of that equation in balance is the most important factor.

Side note: Also, if I can give you a teeny piece of advice for life ... I really recommend avoiding starting sentences with "This may be a stupid question, but..." It ranks up there (down there?) with "No offense, but ..." and "Don't take this the wrong way, but..." Own your statement, or if it really IS offensive or stupid, rethink or rephrase it.