[honeychile]

One opening that someone used with me was something like this:

PNM: "That's a very interesting necklace that you're wearing. Does it have any significance?"

Me (smiling): "Yes, it's my sorority crest."

PNM: "Do you mind me asking which sorority? I plan to go through Recruitment at Monster's University. Is your sorority there?"

Me: "Why, yes, it is - Alpha Delta Pi. Have you started looking for recs yet? You'll need them there."

PNM: "Yes! And I don't have any for ADP (yes, P, not Pi, that's why this stands out!) yet."

Me: "Well, it's ADPi, but if you'd like me to write one for you, just let me know."

This was a young woman who I've known since she was about 4 years old, so it was a pleasure to sit down with her and write a rec. I think most alumnae who are asked in a non-demanding way and are provided with the necessary information are only too glad to help out.