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I agree that you should focus more on the sisterhood and where you will fit in, and not on who your Big Sister will or will not be. I think that the importance of the Big/Sister Little Sister relationship is overemphasized sometimes, especially in the minds of PNMs. My Big Sister left school the semester after I joined, but I had a lot of other friends in the chapter (not that I didn't miss her, but it didn't really impact my sorority experience that she was gone).
In addition to where you think you will fit in, think about whether there is a chapter of girls that you aspire to be like. (I'm not talking about "tent talk" or which sorority is supposedly the best, most beautiful, whatever, but where the girls exhibit qualities that you admire.) One of the things that attracted me to my own sorority was that the women in it who I knew on campus were smart, were leaders, and had their acts together. I wanted to be like that, and to be associated with people who were like that.
Good luck. Try not to stress about it too much! It sounds like it can be a confusing situation.
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