[superbity]

I do have friends from before I COBed, but none of them are staying over the summer so I can't stay with them.

When I joined a sorority I knew that I wasn't going to be instant best friends with everyone. I knew that I would have to work at it like any other friendship. But one thing I thought I could count on was them helping me out when I needed it. Honestly like I said, if a girl in my sorority asked me if she could stay with me for 3 nights, and she couldn't find anywhere else to stay, I would let her even if I didn't know her that well. Maybe I'm just too naive or sentimental.

I'm not trying to offend anyone when I say this, but it's just what I feel: if girls aren't willing to help out another member by letting her stay with them for only 2 days/3 nights, and she's basically desperately begging and pleading, then how is that a sisterhood? How is it anything more than just one big group made up of a bunch of small cliques, throwing around the words love and sisterhood while they won't even step in when someone really needs it? People always say, when you join a sorority you're not instant-friends. You still have to make friends. So what makes a sorority so special and so sacred? I thought part of the reason was that even if you don't know a sister very well, and even if there's 80 other girls in your pledge class (like there is in mine) so you don't really hang out with her, you still have that connection with her and you still care about her. But I think now I'm wrong, and I just can't really see what's sacred about my sorority and about our "sisterhood."

I'm sorry if that offends someone or if I sound bitter. I'm not bitter, I'm just confused and honestly sad. I know I'm not really friends with many girls in the house, and I understand that I can't just expect them to automatically be my best friend. But I still thought I could count on them for something, because I know that when it came down to it, I would be there for them. And now I'm almost considering renting a hotel room for several hundred dollars, or even sleeping in my car for 3 nights.