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Originally Posted by irishpipes
I am having the same issue. One thing that keeps coming up is "I don't want to be told what to do." I know some girls that would be great sorority members, but they simply cannot see that the benefits might outweigh the "rules" they will be asked to follow. Frankly, they have never shared a bedroom or bathroom, and they don't want other girls so close in age dictating to them.
I have tried playing up the opportunities for intramurals, song/dance, scholastics, and leadership. These girls would LOVE all of those things. But, they don't want to be forced to participate in any of those things. These are all girls who have played on sports teams and such, so they have certainly been asked to follow a regimen in the past.
I am not pushing the issue. I feel like I gave them the ad for greek life, but if they feel that strongly against it, they will end up dropping out anyway.
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I just have to cosign on the bolded, irishpipes. During my time as an undergraduate, we had a few girls who pledged who were amazing girls: involved on campus, friendly, good students, fun, overall great fits for our chapter...but. Big but. Rules and being "bossed around" (their words--more like "gently led") by people their own age was something they just could not hang with. Dress guidelines for recruitment? No can do. Committing to weekly meetings that were under 2 hours? No can do. Participating regularly in activities you pay for out of your dues? No can do. Behave within certain guidelines at public events where you are representing the sorority? No can do. These girls ended up disaffiliating.
The bottom line is that there are some girls who might make amazing members and are genuinely good people (and may even be genuinely interested in Greek life until they are, well, in), they are just too independent or free-spirited to hang with the "rules" side of being in a sorority, and I think that no amount of convincing or presenting Greek life positively can change that, unfortunately. Sorry, major run-on, but you get my point
