[BraveMaroon]

If I could go back and change one thing about my Freshman year of college, it would be that I'd break up with my boyfriend before we both left for different schools thousands of miles away.

He was a terrific guy, we both really cared about each other, but...

I never really fully engaged my Freshman year. I spent way too much time thinking about him, counting days til I'd see him, waiting for him to call, etc.

We ended up breaking up at the end of the school year, which was devastating, and I spent the whole summer dealing with that aftermath.

Every situation is different, but I think part of the joy of college is going there as a blank slate, open to everything that comes your way. It's hard to do that if you're in a relationship with someone who is there with you.

No matter when it happens, it's going to be hard. But if you're both agreed, why not go ahead and take the summer to heal and move forward?

By the way - he's still a great guy - he married a woman who was totally right for him, they have two gorgeous kids, etc. I found the man of my dreams and married him... it totally worked out.