Hello Ladies!
My apologies for sounding crazy... I have no problem at all with girls pledging where their heart leads them. I'm afraid too many just go with their friends to be popular & certainly encourage any young lady I write a rec for to do what she wants & what will make her most happy
And 33 girl is correct...should have referred to them as buttons. Pins sounds like I was referring to their sorority crest or emblem they wear after initiation...oops
I have seen multiple pics of one mom in particular wearing a XYZ button while strolling around campus in front of fraternity houses, to visiting in her child's apartment, to a formal function that appeared to be a Paren't Weekend type event, although none of the other parents were wearing them. I just found it very odd but am glad to be set straight!
As far as knowledge of background stories, it's not hard at all to know. The girls rushing now are daughters of cousins, friends, & girls who rushed me. They have aunts who went through rush & pledged after I did. The cousins, friends, & friends of the mother all chit chat so it's not difficult to know which sororities Suzy & her group of friends are genuinely interested in by the time she starts rush.
Sorry if I came across as some old school toot who thinks it's tacky to not join the sorority your grandmother, aunts, & sisters belong to...that's not my way of thinking at all. Guess it's just hard to explain without giving back story & giving too much away. I apologize if I offended anyone.