[FuzzieAlum]

Many of the rules rushees do complain about are not mandated by Panhel or the sororities at a national level. And I certainly do agree that there are rules the local Panhels impose that can hurt rushees.

For example, on my campus, you could drop out of formal whenever you want and still do informal. I can't imagine why it should be any other way, and I would agree with ThielGirlie that such a rule hurt her and is stupid.

I agree, the way rush is implemented at some campuses is screwed up, either minorly or majorly. But those rules can be changed if the sororities want to do it - and I think it is in their best interest to do so. The proverbial "cookie size" rule is ludicrous, for example. Let a chapter serve a cookie the size of a coffee table, I don't care! I might be swayed to join chapter X if they dirty rush, but not 'cause of the size of their snacks.

My original response was mostly to the comment, "don't say you can't do things different because of Panhel." And I am sick of hearing men criticize our rush. On our campus, they went so far as to tell women not to rush because sororities are dumb and have all these rules, but, hey, you can hang out with us and wear our letters, and be almost like a real brother! If a rushee, like ThielGirlie, has a problem with the way we conduct rush, esp. having tried to go through it herself, I have much more respect for her criticisms.