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Originally Posted by DZGA
I mean he said he wanted space but then said he wants us to date again, he doesn't want to do anything with anyone else and he expects the same from me.
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Oh Lord, this hits home.
My HS boyfriend broke up with me right before college. He initiated it, thought it was for the best since we were going to different schools. So we broke up, but he continued to text/call, etc.
Come Thanksgiving he wants me back. Well...by then I had met my now husband. He knew this new guy was in my life and starting pitching fits that I shouldn't date him because I met him so quickly, and didn't give him (the ex) a second chance.
Long story short...after a painful (emotionally), dramatic freshman year full of arguments, control and intimidation, I FINALLY worked up the nerve to tell him I was going to be with my new boyfriend--he would have to accept that.
He bitched me out and stopped talking to me for months, but facing that conflict was worth very much worth it. I don't know why I let him dictate my life for so long.
This guy has absolutely no right to have a say in what you do from here on out (not that he should have been controlling your choices when you were together, either). He broke up with you. You are (and never were) his property. It is too damn bad he can't make up his mind, but he officially ended it and he now must live with that choice.
Move on. It will be very hard but you will be better off.