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Wow, I just had a flashback after reading 33girl's comment about your sisters not KNOWING you. This is a valid point you might want to give some honest thought to. I remember a sister who pledged and initiated, but was rarely around the sorority her first year of school. If it wasn't mandatory, she opted to opt out. The reason? A boyfriend who she was completely wrapped up in. As I recall, our general perception was that she definitely saw her sisters as a lessor priority and as people she would only be around if she HAD to be in order to avoid a fine. She could have been going through a terrible personal crisis, but none of us would have known her well enough to pick up on clues or feel comfortable approaching her.
Well, she and the boyfriend broke up over the summer and she returned to school -- and fall recruitment -- with an entirely different attitude. I remember my roommate saying, "I think she's realized how important her sisters are." She may have initially thrown herself into recruitment and sorority life to help fill her time and recover from the break up, but you know what? She found her place, her close friends and a true love for the sorority. I graduated a year ahead of her, but she stayed involved in the sorority even when a new boyfriend came into the picture. (She later married him, so it got serious, but she kept things better balanced the second time around.)
Also, you said you go home every weekend to work. I understand needing to work, and don't know how far home is, but packing up and traveling every weekend sounds like one more stress-inducer. Have you considered finding a job on or near campus? I also understand wanting to see your family and boyfriend...but hitting the road every single weekend? That is a lot for anyone, and Greek or not, you do miss out on some of the college experience when you head out-of-town a lot.
Just a few thoughts...
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