Everyone experiences buyers' remorse at some point in her collegiate membership. It can happen frequently throughout your membership, regardless of whether you received your first choice or tenth choice sorority. Women will say, "I love what the organization stands for, I just don't know about my chapter and I feel like I don't fit in." Also, as they get closer to graduation, they will say, "This is not the chapter I joined." All are perfectly normal because sororities are composed of people. We don't always get along with everyone, and we don't always take the time to cultivate relationships.
Being part of a sorority does not mean you suddenly have 50+ BFFs. Friendships take time and effort to cultivate. Even then, friendships can go through ups and downs, like any other relationships.
Being part of a sorority means you have joined a service and social organization. It gives you opportunities to serve your community, to meet new people, to develop leadership skills, and the opportunity to make friends. You get out what you put into it, and if you aren't putting yourself out there and cultivating friendships, then people are not going to be concerned when you're not coming around, for whatever the reason. Because the word "sister" is misleading in some respects. The members will be there for you, but you have to also be there for them and put yourself out there in return.
I wish you the best. It sounds like you have had some difficult experiences lately, and you might want to take this time to let your sisters in on what has been happening with you, as well as taking the advice given here to seek counseling. Best of luck.
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