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Originally Posted by ASTalumna06
Because the OP knows nothing of the PNM's interest (or lack thereof), befriending her is key. The sorority can wait. Introducing her to members outside of an official sorority event puts less pressure on the PNM and makes the possible transition to membership less stressful. Friendship first, sorority later is a great strategy, and one that, in my opinion, isn't used often enough.
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As I've said on here before - those 5 steps Kevin posted are on point, but they do not take 5 minutes. Sometimes they can take a year or more! This is what rush is 24/7/365 really means - yes, maybe you are over total right now but that doesn't mean you shouldn't keep yourself open to cultivating friendships and possible sisterhood with great people all of the time. You never know, that over-total you have now may end up being under-total next semester for reasons completely beyond your control. The last thing you want is to be in a "we need to get x number of women by y date" and have to begin from scratch.
Ideally, you want to get it to a point to where the PNM is so comfortable with you that SHE asks YOU how she can get a bid.
And it can be that you'll make a great friendship with someone, but your sisters can't stand her, or vice versa. That doesn't mean the time creating the friendship was wasted.