[ninah]

Personally, I would be offended if someone who is not in my sorority was allowed to wear my letters. Our house manager went over everyone's heads and made our old advisor a paddle with our letters on it. She's not a Phi Mu, she isn't planning on being initiated as an Alumna member... I felt like it was inappropriate. Now I know fraternities are different - I'm lavaliered to an SAE and I couldn't be more honored to wear their letters. But that is a sign of my commitment to my boyfriend and to his fraternity and his symbol of commitment to me and building a life together. It sounds like your fraternity has already honored your advisor in a way that's more important then allowing her to wear your letters. I agree with the suggestion of buying her a piece of jewelry with your jewel or maybe an engraving of something, it will mean more to her 10 years from now then any article of clothing.