[TriDeltaSallie]

Yes, you can be a good sorority sister and dodge the parties. You can be a great sorority sister and dodge the parties.

I don't drink and so I rarely went to fraternity parties until I became chapter president. Then I went for liability and standards reasons. As a strong introvert, parties are not my thing. I can't stand the smell of alcohol, especially beer. And, frankly, I really don't enjoy watching people doing stupid things because they've had too much to drink.

There were a few women in the chapter who were bothered by my lack of being super social and lack of interest in drinking. But they were only a few. I was very dedicated in many other ways that were appropriate for me and my personality. I don't think many (any?) of my sisters would have doubted my commitment to my chapter or my sorority.

If you are spending time with your sisters at other sisterhood events and contributing in other meaningful ways, you will be fine. If the drinking thing comes up, just say that parties really aren't your thing. Then suggest another way to connect with your sisters through another activity.