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Originally posted by APhiDarling
However, I think it's silly to be VERY involved in the Greek system after one graduates. I feel like it's time to move on. There is no way I would ever want to be as involved in the system as I am now as an active member, when I graduate. It's like people who say, "HS was the best years of my life" and never get over it. Everything has its place and time. I will always be a proponent of the Greek system and Alpha Phi, ALWAYS. But that's only if someone asks me, or I feel like sharing. I think it looks pathetic for an adult to go around singing sorority songs and stuff after they have graduated. I'm all for alumnae (?) chapters, and meeting up with sisters in a certain region and staying in contact, and donating money to my fraternity, but I'm not going to be a thrity something going to rush school.
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This is a very common misconception of life as an alumna member and advisor. Let me tell you, there is no way in he** I would ever want to go through college again. It was fun while it lasted, and advising at Chapter Council meetings makes me think "Oh yeah, that was a good time, but I'm glad I'm done with it and can now step back and offer advice without having to deal with the nitty-gritty details and the stress." During Recruitment, alums spend most of the time in the kitchen
It's offering support and showing that Kappa is for life, without getting in the way of the chapter's individuality. At pref parties while I was an undergrad, we had a member in her seventies speak about her life experience as a Kappa, and it really made an impression on the PNM's (even those who didn't go Kappa). Advisors do not go to Recruitment school, except on the last day so the actives can practice their conversation skills. I feel that it's my way of giving back to Kappa, which was by far my most positive college experience. I just feel that without alum involvement a lot of Kappa chapters wouldn't be as strong as they are. Being an advisor is not reliving your college years, it's making someone else's years better and easier.
Sorry for getting so far off the topic, but I really feel strongly about this issue, and the number of chapters that lack alumnae guidance is a big part of the reason that Kappa is now provisionally taking alumna initiates. I don't have any money to give Kappa, I'm on a very tight budget and am paying for a wedding, and this is my way of giving back and keeping Kappa strong so that other women can have the same enjoyable experience that I did.