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Originally Posted by AXOrushadvisor
A victim of domestic violence does not allow themselves to be beaten or abused.
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It's true they don't allow it, but a victim can prevent further abuse by removing themselves from the situation, obtaining restraining orders if necessary. I can't tell you how many victims or abusers I've represented. Lots. More often than not, the victim keeps going back to the abuser. I understand the psychological issues there, but that doesn't remove the victim from any responsibility.
As far as the banning her from the house issue goes, that's just ridiculous. Talk about a bandaid on a bullet hole. This guy doesn't know how to be in a relationship. He needs punishment and serious counseling. If your chapter or HQ or alumni won't do anything to expel him, maybe you could convince them to require him to enroll in a batterers' intervention program? We have one here in OKC. It's $25 per visit and it's a 52 week course. It's a huge undertaking, but it has been shown to reduce recidivism.