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Originally Posted by tapuz
After much comforting by the lovely rho gammas, I was told to rush again in the fall. At my school, freshmen are not allowed to rush in the fall and rush then is informal. Although fewer people are taken in, I feel as though I might have a chance the second time around. What do you guys recommend I do until then in order to potentially increase my chances of getting a bid in the fall?
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Are you looking for a bid? Or are you looking for a bid to your top choice? There's a difference.
You had a chance to receive a bid this semester, so I don't believe that you'd need to change much. Unless, of course, you're looking for a bid to your top choice. In that case, you might need to meet more sisters of that chapter, or raise your grades, or work on your social skills... or be a different person altogether (which is clearly impossible).
Don't focus on this chapter. They dropped you. Maybe it was a "close race" and you just slipped through the cracks, and if you tried again, they would bid you. However, they may also have simply not wanted to extend you a bid, and there's nothing you can do to change that.
Two chapters invited you to their preference ceremony. They gave you a chance and saw something in you that made them want to call you "sister." You didn't even attempt to return the favor.
Just because you didn't cry or get emotional at pref doesn't mean that they wouldn't make great sisters. Pref is one night, one ceremony. Heck, I didn't even cry during my alumnae ceremony when I was leaving my collegiate chapter, and I loved my college experience and all the sisters that I have.
Friendship/sisterhood isn't instant. It doesn't just "click" at pref, or at your new member ceremony, or at initiation. It's something you work on. It's not magic.
I hope you go into informal next semester with an open mind.