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Originally Posted by adpiucf
No offense intended to you, and complete offense intended toward the rec writer in this instance-- what an irresponsible person to promise, not follow through, and then laugh about it later. That is an atypical scenario, but I agree with your statement that it is up to the PNM to follow up with her rec writer on the deadlines, to check to make sure the rec was mailed, and to follow up after recruitment as a courtesy.
So to the OP: don't join a sorority if you're one of those people who doesn't follow through on her promises. Per the above example, they can't all be weeded out, but sometimes people like that can really harm a sorority working toward a common goal.
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Part of my point is that the rec writer was from a background where recs weren't essential, so she didn't really understand that what she did potentially really hurt this PNM. She was thinking of recs as something nice to have but not all that important. If your rec writer went to a place like Bama they know how important it is. Just because someone is an alumna doesn't mean they know a lot about the details of recruitment, or recruitment at different chapters. This was a group that doesn't have much presence here, so a PNM would struggle to find anyone to write a rec for them. I felt so bad about it all. Anyway, just sayin that local PNMs might have an easier time securing strong recs than out-of-staters, although that is a generalization.