[DubaiSis]

Unfortunately, all of rush is superficial, and I think does lead to a lot of girls feeling like you did. It also makes girls think this one and only one sorority is the one for her, when in reality any of them would be a good fit, given time and some patience. Unfortunately, it's the system we work with, so you have to deal with it the best you can. What you get on the other side of the swamp is worth it.

It sounds like the chapters at SMU are all over total, so your friends can't do a lot to help right now, but do let them know you are interested in opportunities that arise in the future. A chapter may have an unusual amount of girls graduate or for other reasons have unexpected openings. And like I said upthread, keep your ears and eyes open for the new colony that hopefully will happen next fall. AND, they did have an upper classmen quota, so while it's harder to rush as a sophomore, they at least have some delegated spots for older students, and thus it's not impossible.

Keep your grades up, be active socially, volunteer and join clubs, take on a leadership position or two, keep your nose clean, and when the next opportunity arises, you'll be in good shape.