[DubaiSis]

Think of it this way; most of your sorority friends are probably freshmen and therefore just went through rush themselves. The women here who are giving you advice have seen rush many MANY times, including as rush advisors for chapters at FSU. The sorority girl you know has never seen rush on the other side and they don't know the policies and procedures yet, even if they think they do. And the way all the paperwork goes in sororities, the advisor and the rush secretary may be the only ones who actually see the recs, and they might be the only ones weighting their importance. Or in other words, in member selection, someone isn't standing up saying "Mary has a rec but Suzie doesn't, so we're cutting Suzie." But that could be just what is happening in the dungeon in the basement where the rush secretary lives.

Every sorority has a different way of handling it and it's all secret, but think of it like this theoretical scenario. Your grades count for a point, your recs count for a point, your conversation counts for a point, your appearance counts for a point, your friend connections count for a point. Do you really want to give up 1 of 5 points? Maybe you've got all 4 of the others and maybe 4 is enough. But what if it's not?