Yeah, I think we do things a lot differently at my school, especially based on what I've read from other recruitment threads. I kind of wish I had known the night before or something, I would have been upset, but I think by actual pref party time I would have felt a lot better about it, and maybe would have felt better on bid day too. Oh well, it still worked out for me.
I suppose it's alright to reveal that Donna was Phi Sig.