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Kevin (Sigma Nu),
I like the way you write; you seem to be a thoughtful person. I'm wondering however, if you realize that at the same time you say homophobia is the wrong word, you use the word 'fear' at least twice. (phobia =fear)
I don't want to emphasize symantics or grammar, though. But I do wonder why almost everyone talks about 'lifestyle' and such as a defining factor.
I'm gay but I live and work the same way most straight people do. I don't have a "lifestyle" that's any different. I don't even know what is meant by that.
I get up in the morning, go to work, pick up my mail on the way home, and then check my e-mail and write back to my fraternity brothers. I'm the president of my alumni association and it keeps me very busy.
I told everyone I'm 'gay' because I'm just not attracted to girls. I figure that's being honest. There are alot of brothers of every fraternity who are this way. You wouldn't know it if they didn't tell you.
The real question is: What would you do if they did? Don't answer this. Just think what you would do if one of your bros was honest with you. It's not an easy question and the answer is sometimes not known until it actually comes down to the actual fact.
I was very afraid to come out, but when I did it was very anti-climactic. My brothers didn't short-change me - I had short-changed them all that time.
Jono
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