[33girl]

That's wonderful that it has worked for you. But it's not the SAME as sorority membership. I have friends that I've known the past half dozen years that are some of the best friends I've ever had. But it's not the SAME as the relationship with my sorority sisters. One is not on a "higher plane" than the other, it's just different.

Rather than throwing out options that vary WIDELY from place to place (just like college campuses do) I think we should just say "I'm sorry it didn't work out for you at your school" and let it go at that. Suggestions from people who already have what you want are awfully cold comfort.