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Old 11-19-2012, 09:18 AM
AZTheta AZTheta is offline
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This can't be said enough: membership in an NPC GLO is voluntary. We are private organizations. Membership selection is not discussed on this board, nor should it ever be discussed outside of the privacy of each GLO. You have no idea in reality as to why you were not invited to return. Neither do we.

Take time to step back from a situation when it creates a strong emotional reaction. It is always a good idea to write out things and get your feelings on paper, and then set aside what you've written for a cooling off period. You can return to it and edit it, not only for grammatical and punctuation errors, but for cohesiveness and clarity. That way you are responding and not reacting. This process develops self-control, insight, and perspective-taking abilities. There were many great points made in the responses that were written to you. You focused on a few things that you thought were judgmental and disciminatory, and didn't process the help that was being offered.

Feel whatever you wish to feel (no one can control what anyone else thinks, feels, says, or does). But be careful: feelings are not facts. Call it being judged, being discriminated against, bottom line is that you were not selected for membership and that is a FACT. How you then move on from that fact is what differentiates the outcome. The choice is yours.

Being older does not mean a person has maturity. It only means you have celebrated more birthdays. Being a grown up is not equivalent in any way to being an adult. (read David Richo's books for explanation of the difference). I know some 60 year olds who have less maturity than many 19 year olds.
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