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I'm sorry that youhave had an experience that has left you with a less than good impression of Greek life. Had I been one of your rec writers (you did get recs, right?) I would have called the chapter's attention to just these things that we are indicating are usually a negative for older PNMs, especially those with children, and explained why I -as an alum and rec writer - think you would could overcome the conflicts and concerns. I would also have advised you to bring this up the first night in conversations with the chapters. It would have been the elephant in the room, so to speak, and bringing it up yourself would be a positive.
All that being said, membership selection is private but we can usually ferret some things out as we know what these chapters look for in NMs. Do you have the time to commit - and this typically means 4 years? That's one reason why upperclassmen have a problem. The chapters spend a lot of time, energy and money on recruitment. They want someone who will be there for the long haul. What are your other commitments?
Academically, personally, financially. And what are your grades? You never mentioned that. While I may have errors in this post (it's 6 AM and I haven't finished my first cup of tea!) I'm not trying to get in - and your two posts leave something to be desired from grammar and spelling standpoints.
And before you say you wouldn't discriminate, we are all correct when we say you would. Are you going to admit a gang member who is out on bail for a murder charge? Of course not. But the bar may be there but I assure you that there will be SOME membership criteria and someone could say you discriminate.
And lastly, we do not hyphenate Panhellenic (if all the groups to which to refer are NPC groups). So be careful about that as well. We wish you luck. I also strongly suggest Beta Sigma Phi. I think it's just what you are looking for at your stage in life.
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