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I'm so thankful that my mother has never put pressure on me to want to have kids. She has openly said she would love grandchildren (and she can't see a baby in public without trying to play with it), but has made it clear that it matters more that I'm happy than that I have children. I don't have siblings, so I'd be her only shot at grandkids, and I really do want to have a family someday (not yet, I'm still in undergrad), but I'm just very lucky I've never felt obligated or pressured to want kids because she wants me to have them. And, I know that if I chose to adopt, she would be exactly as thrilled as if I had kids myself.
We have a family friend who didn't get married for the first time until a little later than typical, almost 40, and she and her husband decided to adopt, for one reason or another. The ended up adopting 3 sisters who were between 5 and 9 from a VERY messed up family life/foster situation, and it changed all of their lives for the better. Anyone who could look down upon them for doing that instead of having a kid of their own, if it was even possible for them, is a selfish, shallow fool. I'm extremely supportive of adoption, despite it's drawbacks, and still having trouble wrapping my brain around people who can't support other people doing it, even if they can't/won't do it themselves
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