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Originally Posted by CutiePie2000
I admit that, until 2008, I used to use the R-Word and I am ashamed to say so (For example, if I thought a situation was stupid or ridiculous, I would say, "Oh, that's so retarded".
Then two things happened:
1) My boss' 3rd child was born (a daughter) and she had Down Syndrome
2) I read this article by Maria Shriver ( http://www.latimes.com/news/opinion/...,7263175.story)
I've now made a conscious effort to refrain from saying that word, as I've now been enlighted as to how hurtful and what a terrible slur it is. It now quite bothers me when I hear someone say it.
As a DG, I really struggle with the Ann Coulter issue and the person vs. persona. I appreciate what some of my fellow DG's have contributed on this thread in terms of a mature discussion, so thank you for that. |
Thank you for making the effort. PARA ...I have a retarded son. Yes, he's "intellectually challenged" and "special" and "exceptional" -- because he's moderately mentally retarded (medical description, meaning slower than others). But he is not "a retard". PARA ...My feelings on the use of the word are more nuanced that are generally seen in today's discourse, but involve a recognition that the use of the pejorative, particularly in public, is hurtful. I've literally been chastised because I've said "My son is retarded." -- by people who do not understand the differentiation. And I understand there are some who are challenged/slow/special/exceptional who would even change the medical terminology if they could, because they don't like it.... PARA ... Not that any of this excuses the use of the word as a deliberate insult. Or any other word as a deliberate insult, in polite society. But freedom of speech means people can say just about anything, and our societal notion of acceptable is to be the determiner. PARA ... So one has to separate person/persona in order to live up to our oaths. I don't see any other way, though maybe others do.