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I have been on the receiving end of all of this. I lost my husband to cancer two and a half years ago. So, from experience, I thought I would chime in on this thread. Food is great but send it in a container that can be thrown away. It is too hard to try to remember who's dish goes with who. Also, if you do a food schedule, don't send food everyday. It is overwhelming and nobody has that much refrigerator space. Help with household chores is really nice, but don't wait to be asked. if somebody asked what they could do to help, I just said nothing. Sometimes it is just too hard to give anything more than that for an answer. But most importantly...don't go away. People were there when he first passed away but now I am easily forgotten. The same group of friends that we did things with all the time go about their fun, and I am just left behind. Don't invite a widow to something that will be all couples. Plan a girl's night. Invite her over for a movie night. But, please remember, it will always be difficult for your sister. When your world is turned upside down, it is something from which you never fully recover.
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