[AGDee]

After first rounds, Janet had one clear favorite and one that she knew she didn’t like. I found out she was going through recruitment when she sent me a text saying “Your sorority made my first list this round.” I sent her a long Facebook message telling her that cuts after first rounds can be harsh and not to take it personally. I gave her some of the other advice we generally give young ladies on GC. I also told her that “Mama LastName” would love her no matter which chapter she ends up in. No pressure to join my chapter.

For second rounds, PNMs could be invited to 11 chapters. After getting second round invites, Janet sent me a text “I only got five invites and everybody else got more than me!” She was clearly upset. Then she told me that Rebbie only got three invites and she felt really bad for Rebbie.

Janet was invited to:
The Temptations
The Four Tops
Diana Ross
Smokey Robinson
Aretha Franklin

She was sad that she was not invited back to Marvin Gaye, which had been her favorite chapter. It was even harder for her because Rebbie was invited back to Marvin Gaye. She had liked them best because “Conversations there weren’t fake. It wasn’t just ‘Hi, how are you’?” I told her that from this point on, she needed to treat it as though the five who invited her back were the only chapters on campus. I pointed out that they saw something they liked about her so she should give them a chance. Her invites did include her least favorite chapter. I gave her a big pep talk via text and she showed it all to Rebbie who felt a little better then too.


Second Parties:

The Temptations- She really liked this chapter. She had a long conversation about Disney and enjoyed the women she met here. She also said she loves the physical house and could see herself living there.
The Four Tops- This chapter was a favorite. She really liked these women a lot.
Diana Ross- She still wasn’t really feeling this chapter. Conversations were a struggle and she had to carry the conversation.
Smokey Robinson- She was kind of neutral about this chapter. She didn’t dislike them, but there wasn’t anything really memorable about them.
Aretha Franklin- She was also kind of neutral about this chapter.

If she was ranking at this point, she would have ranked
The Temptations-fave
The Four Tops- fave
Aretha Franklin-Neutral, but wanted to get to know them better
Smokey Robinson- Neutral, but wanted to get to know them better
Diana Ross- just not meeting women she clicked with