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Originally Posted by 33girl
First of all...it's blackballed. "Blacked" is a rather unfortunate way to put it.
Saying no one will care because the fraternity is ranked low on GR is asinine. Fraternity members DO have friends in other fraternities and you never know who is friends with who.
Your timeline confuses me. Are you saying you missed rush in Fall 2011, got a bid in December 2011, were depledged somewhere between then and now, and are waiting until Fall 2013 to rush? Why didn't/don't you go through rush this Fall?
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It was a rather poorly written post i must admit. I pretty much missed the Fall 2012 Rush people start looking at houses in late spring and fraternities start giving out bids by the start of summer and most houses close by end of summer, the rush process as a pledge does not officially begin though until the first week of school in fall. I missed the time when all the houses where open and missed the time of getting to see all houses, although when i arrived a few houses where open and i looked at 2 of those houses and got a bid from one than joined. Because i was released from my pledge ship "blackballed" i have to wait till 2013 to rush another fraternity. So that means i am not allowed to do the small rush they hold in December for spring so i have to wait till 2013 which is not far away so i wont sign my future bid until early summer when they give them out.
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Originally Posted by knight_shadow
Lol.
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OP - I hope "not sucking another member's dick" is your way of saying "not kissing his ass."
And I don't see a question. If you want to rush another organization, go for it. Just know that some people may recognize you as "that one pledge from XYZ."
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thxs
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Originally Posted by DubaiSis
Sentence structure is your friend. It's very hard to figure out what you're trying to tell us. And as knight_shadow said, you haven't asked a question.
If you're asking if you did the right thing, we can't answer that.
If you're asking for confirmation that you shouldn't have played along, that would depend on what was being asked of you. There is a certain amount of playing along that is required from you as a pledge. You can choose to have fun with it or you can stand your ground and say no. And the risk you take is exactly what happened - you can have your dignity or you can have the pledge pin. But this does not apply if what was being asked of you was harmful in any way. I'm not a believer that a person should cry hazing for every little thing, but if it was dangerous or sexually abusive, then you have an obligation to not just quit but to report it.
If you're asking if this incident has hurt your possibilities in the future, we can't answer that either. But 1-spend time getting to know men in a variety of fraternities this semester and 2-be prepared for similar or worse pledge antics at the better houses.
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yeah i will get to know lots of other people. I think if i tell my story though (i hope) it won't be an issue. I really wanted to look at all the houses i had my own preferences before hand but was open to seeing what every house had to offer. I arrived to school well after the open rush process ended and not wanting to wait an entire year till when all houses are open again i decided to look at the 2 houses that were still open when i arrived. One of them gave me a bid and that house was a house i originally thought was cool as it had a good reputation at another school.
I feel foolish for not having waited a year and not looked at all the houses. In short 1 of my top choices gave me a bid having missed the open rush and all houses being just about closed i put aside better judgement and decided to sign with them. I was considering dropping them right before i got dropped but i am not disappointed that they dropped me i am only disappointed i missed the open rush.